There are plenty of things that we must prepare for throughout life. From planning the next family meal to planning a weekend get-a-way with all the stops. It truly is never ending. There’s always something to prepare for. One thing that no one wants to actually think about, but, it is inevitable, is death. All of our lives will end one day. I’m not trying to start this year out on a dark note, but, it is something we should all think about. I was only 24 when my father passed away; and, I can tell you that losing either of my parents at such a young age never crossed my mind. Yes, my parents had “prepared.” They had life insurance policies in place. They had set up a trust. But, there were so many questions that we simply didn’t know. Funeral planning is rough! Even more so, when you don’t know what your loved one would have wanted. Have those difficult talks. Do this before your emotions take over. Do it while you can think clearly. Yes, it is difficult. But, I promise it is easier to discuss when all parties are healthy and doing well. I speak from experience. My Mom fought a courageous battle against cancer and this talk was done while she was undergoing treatments. We were able to discuss her “biography” and the items that she wanted included in her story. Some of which I had no idea.
To put this in a different light... when you get married, plan a party or have a baby, you have time to plan. Weeks, months or even years, details are able to be mapped out. But, when you lose a loved one, you have weeks or even just a few days to get everything together. Your emotions will be high. Things will be missed. I’m certain even with all the planning you can have, there will be an “oversight.” I’m not suggesting you have everything planned out; but, rather an idea of what your loved ones want. What kind of service would they prefer? Do they prefer to be buried or cremated? The questions are really never ending. But, have those difficult conversations. Nothing will ease the pain of losing a loved one; but, from personal experience I can share that having an idea of what they wanted will somewhat make it easier.
Robin Wunderlich
